So you all know that I want to plan a wedding. Well renewing our vows. I had visions of this in my head for awhile now. How I thought it would go, the rings, what we'd say to one another, etc. But it never really went beyond that because in truth D&I are quite happy! This is long, because I am long winded so just stick with me if you will!
The other night, I was talking to a friend of mine and she started asking me questions. About cakes, the people that would come, invitations, colors, food, etc. and honestly I started to get hot and bothered.. More like stressed but I was getting a little hot and in a hot way as in stressed hot.
I never thought about people coming.
I never thought about colors.
Food.
Invitations.
Any of that. I just thought about what meant the most to me. But I think its why the next night I didn't sleep very well because it started to get really stressful for me and I felt tied down and bogged down with creating and having a wedding...
So I made a list. What is very important to me and still is.
1. Vows. Because D&I stood before a Justice Of The Peace who's name was Ruby and we only recited what she asked us to recite. I don't remember that part much at all, I know that D doesn't either and well we didn't really mean them. Or better yet, we didn't know what those words actually meant. Although like I have shared in other posts, God took our marriage that was a marriage of convenience into a marriage of grace, love, and happiness! And no, for those of you that haven't followed our story,
The very long story of us we weren't pregnant. Anyway vows are at the top of my list because well they mean something now. I want to have us both write them so that we can share them with each other. Those words are important.
2. Wedding attire & photos. These both go hand-n-hand. I didn't wear a wedding dress. As you know, I wore a red pant suit {what was I thinking} and D wore jeans a button down shirt and a tie he borrowed from a friend {I don't believe he was thinking much at all}. I want to wear a wedding dress. I want to have my hair done. I want D to wear a tux, he wants to wear a tux. And photos in this attire is very important to me too. D doesn't really care about the photos, but then again he does because he loves us! He said the photos weren't the most important part for him but because he knew they were for me, he wanted to make them important for us! Awh! What a guy. I don't want stuffy photos. I'd like to take them out somewhere and do really cool photos. But the most important thing here is that we are renting a wedding dress and tux. We don't want to spend the money to buy them because even as important as this is for us, we'd have the memories and the photos and that's enough. But we'll have to be careful with the attire so that we don't end up having to actually buy it because we decided to stand in a wheat field for cool photos.
3. Rings. Well we've already touched on this one, but its very important to me because D has been through probably about 8 rings in the 14 years we've been married. He's lost them at work, or misplaced them because he isn't supposed to be wearing them at work, or he's just plain forgotten where they are. He's had one's that just get him by and the one he's wearing now is one a friend of his named Harry bought for him {its a rather long story for another day!} They are important for me because he hasn't bought me one, and they won't be from the pawn shop {although I still wear the little band from that shop because it's sentimental}. I would also love to buy him one that means something to him to not lose it. Although in his defense he does cherish them, he is just forgetful!
And beyond that my fantasy wedding stopped. I never thought about anything else. That was until Nicole mentioned it to me the other night... I never thought people would come! I mean we've been married for 14 years I don't see my family coming and much less that, where would we house them? I never thought any of our friends that we have made over the years would come either.. For little ole' us? So I never thought of invitations.. But I can really do those myself actually. I don't want fru-fru.
Colors? Do you really pick them for renewing your vows? I love color. I love red. I always wanted to wear a red prom dress {I never did by they way} so red would possibly be a color I'd chose. But what am I getting colors for?
Reception? Food? All I envisioned was what I shared above.. It never dawned on me that if peeps actually came that we'd have to feed them something. LOL.
So Nicole gave me a site to look at that while beautiful, was overwhelming to me.. Because in the end as much as I like fan-fare, I want it to be simple. Meaningful. Small. Intimate. Fun.
So I've been brainstorming a little to not get myself overwhelmed...
I thought I wanted to get married during the day because that seems like a good time to get married. I didn't want it to be cold, but I didn't want it to be hot. So I was thinking that we could keep with our anniversary to make it easier on us and do it in October when it is just starting to get a little bit of a chill. I realized we don't have to take photos, other than the shots that might get taken during the wedding the same day. That we could pick another day and rent the attire for longer if we needed too. We've now decided on June of 2011!
I started to think about food and decided I didn't want a huge thing here either. So I am literally thinking dessert. Like, yes I am throwing this weird thought out there... Ice cream floats. I don't know why that came to mind but it sounded fun, easy, and cheap to me. Of course we'd offer drinks but like I said, I want simple. Either that, or we'd have a down home picnic. But then that means it would stretch our budget {well mine since I am just brainstorming here}. Maybe offer cupcakes too.
Peeps. Of course I'd invite my family but I don't expect any of them to come. D thinks his family would, at least his mom. I would love to invite my dear friends old and new but wanted to keep it small, simple, and intimate. The Snapp's, The Girven's, The Kopecky's, The Sullivan's, The Hefling's. Then there are new friends, like Lori, The DeYoung's, The Boyd's, The Long's {although I very much want Mr. Long to marry us since well he is one of our pastor's}, the bible study group, and my old bible study group possibly. I was thinking maybe 30 peeps since I've been brainstorming and all. We don't want gifts, unless peeps feel led to give them. Them coming is enough of a gift to us...
If peeps were coming, I'd have to do invites, which I will be more than happy to do myself. But then if that is the case, red isn't working for me and we'd probably go with yellow and grey. Yellow was my other color thought because I love yellow and well grey works with it.
Budget. Let's talk money. Now I don't normally talk about money, other than how cheap I am.. So with that being said I am going to put a price tag on it all. I'm not going over 2000 bucks. Yep, that is VERY cheap, I know. But I think with a lot of prayer and deals we can do this wedding that cheaply. Of course that doesn't include the rings, but that isn't included in the cost because well... LOL. D's gettin' his and of course I am going to get mine!
So there you have it. That is how far I got into my brainstorming. And you know what? I feel better. Because I realized I want small, cheap, intimate, fun, and meaningful. Because that is what is important.
So now that you've read all that, share with me your thoughts, honestly. Because I haven't a clue what planning a wedding is really all about!
p.s. I am going on a girlie over night trip tomorrow and to a woman's conference on Saturday! Hoping to take loads of photos!
p.s.s I found out I didn't get the job. But I am totally okay with it because this means that the Lord has other plans for me and that's exciting!
